After you’ve examined your thoughts, it’s time to get in the game. This game called life is not for the faint hearted or bench warmers. It’s for those with warm blood rushing through their veins. It’s for the ones who are ready to win. Are you ready to win? Well, you better get in the game!

If you are ready to win, you’ve got to be willing to work it. You’ve got to be willing to get the job done. What are you willing to do, to get something you’ve never had before? Are you willing to go above and beyond what you’ve been doing to get to that place called there? So if you’re screaming, “Yes!” what’s stopping you?

You are the only one that can hold you back from where you want to go. Some of you think too much, while others think too little. The bottom line is that your mind has more power than you realize. Your thoughts are creating your future. Believe it or not, you can change your reality, by changing your thoughts.

What do you want to change? Is it your love life, your finances, your relationships, your career, or more importantly your connection to God? What do you really believe about this area that you want to change? You have either a positive or a negative belief about what you want to change? For example, you may want to have more income, but you honestly believe that it’s hard to make money. If this is the case, you will continue to struggle with increasing your income.

The solution for being held back is to free your mind of all of those negative beliefs that are holding you back from realizing your potential.

1. The first step to freeing your mind is to become aware of your thoughts. If you’ve completed the “Get Your Mind Right Challenge,” you should be aware of those thoughts. If not, it’s as simple as being an observer of what is going through your mind without judgment. Don’t beat yourself up about thinking or not thinking a certain way, just become aware. Check out the last blog for details.


2. The second step is to identify limiting beliefs. Ask yourself what you believe about love, relationships, money, career, and spirituality. Write down the thoughts that come to mind about each of these topics, without filtering your thoughts. Then, go back and read it. You will begin to see that some of your thoughts are negative, and some are positive. You may write something like, “I believe that money is necessary but it’s not important. Money causes people to change. Money is great to have, but it’s hard to make it.” In this example, there are many limiting beliefs, but let’s identify, the belief that it is hard to make money. If you really believe that, it will be true for you, but not true for others. After writing out your thoughts, if you have trouble identifying and challenging your negative beliefs, speak with a life coach, mentor, pastor or therapist to help you with this part of the process.


3. Now, you must replace the limiting belief with a new belief by proving that your new belief is true. For example, you could replace the belief that it’s hard to make money with the belief that money comes to you easily and frequently.

Lastly, you must provide evidence that this new belief is true. Take note of everything that proves your new belief to be true. If you want to belief that it’s easy to make money, opportunities will come to you that will help you to develop this belief. You may get an unexpected business deal, or job. You will begin to see parts of your current job that are easy. You may start to think things like, “I can make money while I sleep.” Imagine what it would feel like if you truly believed that money comes to you easily. See yourself at peace, without a care in the world. Find scriptures in the word that support your new belief and meditate on those scriptures. Philippians 4:19 says,”And my God will supply all your needs according to His riches in glory in Christ Jesus. If God is supplying your needs, then it is not hard for you.

More than anything, it’s vital that you ask God to renew your mind throughout this process. Pray before you begin to write and reflect on your beliefs. After you write down your beliefs, meditate on the word of God. Use a journal as you complete this process, it’s important to document your journey toward greatness. Remember that change is a process. It’s your job to work through it to get to the other side. God gave you the play book. You’re a winner in this game called life. There’s more in you!

Feel free to leave comments, or questions about this process. You will see more exercises like this, in the upcoming workbook for the book, There’s More in You! The book includes challenges, and exercises that will help you develop spiritually and tap into your potential.

Detra D. Wilson, M.Ed

Certified Christian Life Coach