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As we close out our last full week of our 30 day journey together, I want to close this week with today’s lesson, which is Learn from Failure DON’T Run from It. Many times we are so afraid to fail and so afraid to try anything new, that we never do anything. We run from failure instead of running towards it. We hide behind bushes when we think failure is lurking and maybe it is lurking. But let me tell you this, you will learn so much more from your failures than you will ever learn from your successes. It is in your failures that your greatness is created, defined and some times refined. Don’t let the possibility of what could ‘never’ happen keep you from trying and making it happen. You have to learn how to confidently look the prospect of failure in the eye and move forward anyway.


You see the question isn’t if you will have problems, but how you are going to deal with your problems. We will all have things that come into our lives to shake us and make us but NEVER to break us. What the devil meant for bad in your life, God can most assuredly turn it around for your good. Romans 8:28 says, “And we know that ALL things work together for the good of those who love God and are the called according to His purpose.” ALL things are working together for your good. Trust and know that God has your best interest at heart when he allows obstacles to come your way. Everything you are experiencing is preparing you for where you are going. Let God shake some things up in your life. There may be some ingredients that have settled down at the bottom that are needed to spice up your life, your purpose and your destiny. Shake them up so you can experience the FULL essence of all of the flavors you possess.


Will you fail backward or will you lean in and fail forward? Don’t run from it… run to it and learn everything you can. Life is all about solving problems. You have to change your perspective when pursuing greatness. You have to look at yourself as a problem solver. Don’t focus on the problem, focus on the solution. If it didn’t or doesn’t work, how can you tweak it to make it better that next go-round? Or do you just scrap it and move it on. Remember that learning to move on is just as important as staying around to try to fix it. It takes wisdom to make that decision. Lastly, don’t forget to keep God in the mix. Some things aren’t meant for you to touch, but just to experience. If this is one of those instances, give the problem to God and keep it moving.


As the quote above implies (I’m paraphrasing), if you try, you stand a chance of losing, but if you don’t, you’ve already lost. Stop running from it and run to it. The very thing you are running from could be the very thing that makes all the difference in how you achieve your goals. No you won’t know until you get knee-deep in it, but you will never know unless you try.


Below is a little inspiration. I have listed a few very successful people and how they failed (some tremendously) before becoming who we know them as today.


•Henry Ford: While Ford is today known for his innovative assembly line and American-made cars, he wasn’t an instant success. In fact, his early businesses failed and left him broke five times before he founded the successful Ford Motor Company.


•R.H. Macy: Most people are familiar with this large department store chain, but Macy didn’t always have it easy. Macy started seven failed business before finally hitting big with his store in New York City.


•Akio Morita: You may not have heard of Morita but you’ve undoubtedly heard of his company, Sony. Sony’s first product was a rice cooker that unfortunately didn’t cook rice so much as burn it, selling less than 100 units. This first setback didn’t stop Morita and his partners as they pushed forward to create a multi-billion dollar company.


•Bill Gates: Gates didn’t seem like a shoe-in for success after dropping out of Harvard and starting a failed first business with Microsoft co-founder Paul Allen called Traf-O-Data. While this early idea didn’t work, Gates’ later work did, creating the global empire that is Microsoft.


•Walt Disney: Today Disney rakes in billions from merchandise, movies and theme parks around the world, but Walt Disney himself had a bit of a rough start. He was fired by a newspaper editor because, “he lacked imagination and had no good ideas.” After that, Disney started a number of businesses that didn’t last too long and ended with bankruptcy and failure. He kept plugging along, however, and eventually found a recipe for success that worked.


•Albert Einstein: Most of us take Einstein’s name as synonymous with genius, but he didn’t always show such promise. Einstein did not speak until he was four and did not read until he was seven, causing his teachers and parents to think he was mentally handicapped, slow and anti-social. Eventually, he was expelled from school and was refused admittance to the Zurich Polytechnic School. It might have taken him a bit longer, but most people would agree that he caught on pretty well in the end, winning the Nobel Prize and changing the face of modern physics.


•Thomas Edison: In his early years, teachers told Edison he was “too stupid to learn anything.” Work was no better, as he was fired from his first two jobs for not being productive enough. Even as an inventor, Edison made 1,000 unsuccessful attempts at inventing the light bulb. Of course, all those unsuccessful attempts finally resulted in the design that worked.


•Oprah Winfrey: Most people know Oprah as one of the most iconic faces on TV as well as one of the richest and most successful women in the world. Oprah faced a hard road to get to that position, however, enduring a rough and often abusive childhood as well as numerous career setbacks including being fired from her job as a television reporter because she was “unfit for tv.”


•Fred Astaire: In his first screen test, the testing director of MGM noted that Astaire, “Can’t act. Can’t sing. Slightly bald. Can dance a little.” Astaire went on to become an incredibly successful actor, singer and dancer and kept that note in his Beverly Hills home to remind him of where he came from.


•J. K. Rowling: Rowling may be rolling in a lot of Harry Potter dough today, but before she published the series of novels she was nearly penniless, severely depressed, divorced, trying to raise a child on her own while attending school and writing a novel. Rowling went from depending on welfare to survive to being one of the richest women in the world in a span of only five years through her hard work and determination.


•Michael Jordan: Most people wouldn’t believe that a man often lauded as the best basketball player of all time was actually cut from his high school basketball team. Luckily, Jordan didn’t let this setback stop him from playing the game and he has stated, “I have missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I have lost almost 300 games. On 26 occasions I have been entrusted to take the game winning shot, and I missed. I have failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”


•Babe Ruth: You probably know Babe Ruth because of his home run record (714 during his career), but along with all those home runs came a pretty hefty amount of strikeouts as well (1,330 in all). In fact, for decades he held the record for strikeouts. When asked about this he simply said, “Every strike brings me closer to the next home run.”


•Steven Spielberg: While today Spielberg’s name is synonymous with big budget, he was rejected from the University of Southern California School of Theater, Film and Television three times. He eventually attended school at another location, only to drop out to become a director before finishing. Thirty-five years after starting his degree, Spielberg returned to school in 2002 to finally complete his work and earn his BA.


The people I listed above aren’t any different from you or me. The only thing that makes them different is their decision to never let no’s and rejection keep them from their dreams, goals, aspirations and purpose.


My question is will you?


Your Daily Coaching Assignment:


Today’s Assignment is … Since failure is inevitable, if your perception of and response to failure were changed, what would you attempt to achieve? I mean really think about. I am sure that there are still some things you haven’t tried or won’t try because you are afraid of failing. What if you were still afraid of failing but knew you needed to lean into it in order to achieve the success you desire? Take some time today and think about recent setbacks you’ve experienced. How did you respond? Did you let it keep you down or did you get back up? I hope you got back up. If not, then now is the time to run toward your failures, lean into them and learn from every single one of them? Is it scary… ABSOLUTELY but it is so worth it!


I hope you enjoyed today’s lesson..

Until next time….

Choose to live in and on purpose!


Life Purpose Generator – Speaker | Coach | Consultant | Mentor

Detra Trueheart